Weekend at a glance #54


I got my hair straightened for the first time since my one year anniversary last year. I probably should have checked the weather first because it’s going to rain all week. But I really needed it and I was oh so tired of my puff. I was really pleased with the results!! She worked wonders.

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What a long and eventful day. Started it off with brunch at Murphy’s with my friend Katrice. It’s so hard to catch up with friends these days. Everyone is busy or busy looking busy. I’m glad I made plans with Katrice. She’s sort of an inspiration ūüôā

And my meal? Spinach, mushrooms, poached eggs on focaccia bread with sundried tomato hollandaise. Yum.


Friend and photographer Tamika took some shots of me that’ll be up for Friday’s style post. Thankfully, the sun was good to me.


Oh! And I met the most interesting (read: odd) guy. While we were taking photos, he was building some type of monument. We asked him what it was and he said it was a Linga. He said it was a symbol of fertility. I googled it later on and did not see any statues similar to what he created but…I’m always here for artistic expression so, do your thing, sir.


To end my night, I had a hot date with a hot girl at TWO Urban Licks.


I love her.



How-to: Twisty-fro hair

I have never been a fan of the afro. Too stiff ¬†and perfect for my taste. What I am here for is big flowy, messy¬†hair. And because I’m lazy, twists are my go-to hairstyle. It’s easy. Here’s how to rock it.

1. SHAMPOO & CONDITION¬†your hair with whatever you like. No natural hair nazi here. You’re safe. Right now I’m using 4 Naturals¬†products because it was free and I want to use it up before purchasing something else.

2. MOISTURIZE. I love love love the Honey Hemp¬†leave-in conditioner by Oyin Handmade. And it’s reasonably priced! This is a staple for me. I also moisturize my scalp with good ole castor oil.

3. BLOW DRY. Because I have extremely coily hair, it causes me to have shrinkage. I like to have my hair stretched for a bigger fro. This is the only time I blow dry my hair. Also, it would probably be wise to use a heat protectant before you blow dry.

4. TWIST. Make about 16-20 large twists (I’m guessing), depending on how large your head is. Mine is pretty large.

The next day, untwist and fluff. VOILA. I usually re-twist my hair every night or every other night. The twists don’t have to be perfect or small. the messier, the better.

The pictures below have been the transition from my small to large twisty-fros over the last year or so. Yay for growth and not touching the shears!


Go ahead, try it.


Weekend at a glance: stylin’ #52

Being the obsessive person that I am, it still surprises me that I’m not more gung-ho about hair length. I’ve never really cared about hair. But now that it’s¬†back, I’m pretty excited to have it, lol. Seventeen months after my last big chop and I’m finally starting to see progress.¬†Now that I have some length, it’s becoming a bit easier to play around with different hairstyles. Not too much though. I still hate doing hair. My go-to style is usually a twist out. This time around, I got one of the best results yet. To achieve the look, I¬†blow-dried¬†my hair straight and used eco¬†styler¬†gel to twist.

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This year, I styled my hair in five (count em) protective styles. A record and a blessing for me.

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Friday night, I came across a ‘Fluffy Cropped Fro‘ tutorial on Youtube and decided to try it. First, I set my two-day old twist out on rods, moisturizing with coconut oil. I flat-twisted my hair in the front. The next day, I separated each twist and fluffed them to give it body. I pinned down the sides for a tapered look.


Saturday, I had to get FOUR (count em) fillings placed in my mouth. As the procedure progressed, I felt as if my face was beginning to swell. The dentist assured me that my face was fine. So why did it feel like my face was swelling, dentist??? While he took a break, I quickly stole a glance at my face and it was indeed swollen. HE LIED. And three days later, if I press too hard on my cheeks, I hit a nerve. I’m gonna have to sue somebody.

Anyway. Slightly swollen face and all, I managed to get myself together to attend a charity mixer called the Red Tie Soiree on Sunday.¬†The attire: red & black. But I’m thinking, red is such a loud color. The only thing I want red are panties and Ruby Woo lipstick. So…

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Oh. Hey Kirk. Hey Tara.

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Voila. My weekend.


Weekend at a glance #37: whipping hair & dining

I have haaaaaair! I mean, I have braids. Same thing. Thanks, sister.

After being stuck in the house all weekend getting my hair braided, I finally ventured out to the city to celebrate my friends birthdays.

jean shirt: h&m; top & leggings: papaya; boots: target; watch: aldo

Happy birthday Mike and Johane! And hiii baby Preston!

so many flashes. paparazzi!


Hair growth-four months

From my first hair video (6 wks growth) to my latest video (17 wks growth).

Remember how I said I was gonna use certain products? Yea…well I lied. I still haven’t used the egg and mayo mix yet. Too lazy. Those vitamins? I keep forgetting to take them. Oh. And I was taking five vitamins a day. I swear the Biotin was making my skin break out. I’m sticking to that thought.

SO! I still don’t use a lot of products. Yay me. But I’ve switched from what I was using. The hair polisher was bad bad bad. I threw it away. Now I use:

1. Giovanni shampoo and conditioner (when it’s finished, I’m getting cheap shampoo and conditioner. To me, these are not important).

2. Jamaican black castor oil & coconut oil (saving grace, moisture-wise).

3. Morraccan oil eco-styler gel (I love this stuff).

I just gave in and bought the Kinky Curly Curling Custard. Sigh. I guess it defines my curls more but my hair is still too short to tell. I still like my eco-styler gel better.

I’m so excited!!! I never knew how people made .gif’s!!! I usually use Picnik to edit my photos but it was down. So I did a google search and came across LunaPic. I uploaded two pictures and it did this! It hurts my eyes but at least I know how to do it now. FYI: it seems you have to click on the pic to see it move.

Haute hair lounge

On July 21st, my friend Arkeedah celebrated her one year anniversary of being a natural-haired girl at Lenox Mall. There were cupcakes, natural products and make up artists on hand for this Haute event. Congrats, Arkeedah! Visit her website for more photos from the event.

Miss Arkeedah


Top: Express, Jeans: Marshall's, Pumps: Nine West, Clutch: store in London

Bald as a south african beauty

Hair has never been a top priority for me. It was never a big deal for me to snip, cut, curl, braid, weave, bump or trim my hair. It’s hair. It’ll grow back. No big deal. I’ve seriously done it all (well except for a texturizer¬†and locs). But there was one hair style I’ve always wanted to try but too afraid to do: go bald, Amber Rose style.

fresh off the barber chair 11.16.10

It never occurred to me that all my hair changes had anything to do with my lifestyle. Really, why do I change my hair so often? And why do I make a drastic change whenever I go through something? New man? New do. Job change? New do. Vacation? New do. Frustration with life? New do. It’s like I take out all of my emotions through my hair.

I am not my hair
I am not this skin
I am not your expectations no no
I am not my hair
I ma not this skin
I am a soul that lives within

Thanks to my tweep Mademoiselle Mitchell’s post¬†about her big chop and a FB friend, I finally decided that this was the final step in my hair journey. I’ve been toying with the idea of chopping it all the way off since the beginning of the year. Each time, I ended up settling for a hairstyle that had less permanent results.

Good hair means curls and waves
Bad hair means you look like a slave
At the turn of the century
Its time for us to redefine who we be

Everyone keeps telling me I’m so brave but why? What’s so hard about cutting your hair off? It’ll grow back. I feel extremely liberated knowing that I Am Not My Hair (India Arie). It made me realize how our images of ourselves have become distorted based on our hair.¬†We give it so much power over our identity. I must admit, I was pretty scared. I’ve never had it that low before and for a brief moment, I wondered whether men would find me attractive. Surprisingly, the men dug it. So do men care half as much about our hair as we do? If not, why do we torture ourselves with believing hair makes us beautiful? Which leads me to believe that our issues with hair have nothing to do with men but with our own insecurities. I’m more confident now because I chopped it all off.

Does the way I wear my hair make me a better person?
Does the way I wear my hair make me a better friend? Oooh
Does the way I wear my hair determine my integrity?
I am expressing my creativity..

Cutting my hair this low has been the best hair decision I’ve made thus far. Whether my hair is long, short, relaxed, braided, wavy or straight, my hair will never define who I am inside.

The transition over the years: