Why I gave up facebook

The decision to shut my Facebook page down has been a long one coming. I’ve been on Facebook since…….2005? Yea, I think that’s right. Six years. Wow. Anyway. For the past few months I’ve considered shutting it down. Then I’d wake up and go back to posting and looking at pictures. Facebook in 2005 was different, though. You’d go out and meet people, ask them for their names and then search for them later on. You’d poke each other to say hello. You’d write cute messages when someone’s birthday rolled around. It was innocent then. Somewhere down the line, though, it changed.

There’s a certain type of people who peruse Facebook now. They request you but never speak to you in real life. And those were the people who I didn’t want on my page. But the number of them became too overwhelming. I grew weary of deleting folks. And what confused the heck out of me were the people who re-requested me when we haven’t spoken in forever (or even worse, only spoke because we went to college together). That confirmed that they were semi-stalking my page. But that’s neither here nor there. Here is why I finally broke up with Facebook.

1. I lost interest. If I never removed one “friend” from Facebook, I’m sure I’d be well over 1500 “friends”. That’s way too many people looking at my pictures and personal information. Yea, maybe I shouldn’t put it on the internet but it’s my choice on who I want to be able to see it. And if I don’t know you from Adam, why are you on my page? Unfriend.

2. I became a professional investigator. Not to be confused with a stalker. I became very good at it too. You suspect your dude of cheating? Leave it to me and I can predict if he was or not. And I was almost always right. It was very helpful in recent years in finding out what kind of guy was approaching me. But I won’t tell you how. I still have a business to run. Call me. Lol.

3. No family ties. One of the main reasons I kept my page open was because I wanted to keep in touch with family. When everyone lives in a different state, it’s hard to see each other outside of the occasional funeral or wedding. By then, children have grown, couples have divorced, drama has subsided. No fun! Well, needless to say, that after finding out eight months in that my cousin was pregnant, I sure wasn’t keeping in touch.

4. Twitter. I mean, I could end it right there and write a whole ‘nother post about that. Actually, I already have. See here. But basically, as far as networking and really connecting with people, Twitter is a better outlet for me. I love pictures and all that jazz but I didn’t see a point of posting them on Facebook anymore.

5. I was obsessed! Yes. Out of the 400 plus people on my page, I viewed the same maybe 20 pages religiously. If they only knew…

6. Personal relationship building. As much as I love social media, if you let it get too far, you will lose basic interpersonal communication skills. Like…how to speak when you’re in a group of people. I’ve met some people, Facebook and Twitter, who have absolutely NO social skills but are most certainly brave behind a computer screen. I’ll admit, I’d prefer to text or tweet than to talk on the phone with most people but relationship building takes work. And, I still speak regularly to the same people outside of social media. I’m hoping this will force me to continue to seek face to face interactions.

I’ll definitely miss all the pictures of the children growing up. After all, Facebook is really for baby pictures. It’s almost a competition to see who has the cutest kid, lol. But my hope is that I’ve already built close enough bonds with some folks that I can travel to see their kids in person and not depend solely on a photograph.

So thankful for this post on the blog Those Graces because it led to me closing my page. It’s only been a week but I’m okay with my decision. Time to put that time to better use.

11 thoughts on “Why I gave up facebook

  1. I’ve thought of it but now with my moving…its either that or my blog for family and friends to keep in touch and I’d much rather it be my facebook page LOL. There’s not much on there except pages and random quotes I make my status. I do delete people by the masses though :-/

  2. I feel you. I mean I’ve thought about all of it but I just had to do it. I wasn’t keeping in touch with the mass of them anyway (friends or family) so it’s whatevs.
    Some of my family send pictures via text or Picasa.
    Giiiirl, delete away. It be like that sometimes.

  3. Well this is awkward…I wish Facebook would allow me to keep a fan page without a personal page. Ugh. I still believe everything I wrote and I still don’t have an interest in the sight outside of branding purposes. Get it together, Facebook…

  4. Miss Lucy, Thanks so much for this post. Hello, my name is Girl in Guadelouope, and I am addicted to facebook. Today I think I hit some type of bottom as I typed in a Google search for ‘how I gave up facebook’. It brought me to your post, yay! …and to your blog, which I did not know before and am so glad I found even if through my struggle with fb addiction. Bravo to you for cutting that cord! I have a problem with the facebook fan page thing also, especially since I choose to try and be anonymous in my blog. For fb daily trawling, I often ask myself, “If I saw this person in the street, would we have much to say to each other past hi how’ve you been ok well take care, and if not, why are we connected on fb? You are truly an inspiration. Make yourself a button when you get to 30 days, and stay strong.

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