I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T, do you know what that means?!
She Got Her Own House, She Got Her Own Car, Two Jobs Work Hard U A Bad Broad, If U Aint On Sit Down….
Yes, if you ain’t on (whatever that means), please, sit down. She doesn’t need you (but she really wants you).
I’ve heard this so many times (even uttered from my own lips).
Accompanying the stories were the discouraging statistics that I heard from Dateline stating that 42% of Black women are unmarried and have little prospect of getting married, compared to 23% of White women.
Enter the Beyonce phenomenon:
Cuz if you liked it then you should have put a ring on it!
Yes, if he likes it, he’ll put a ring on it. But, maybe he really DOESN’T like it. Maybe your attitude is a deterrent that is giving him bad vibes. Maybe your list scares the crap out of him (says a woman who has had a list with 50 items. Don’t worry, I got rid of it :D). Maybe he is intimidated by your success. Maybe your success makes him feel insecure. Who knows.
We all know men love hard and their recovery time from heartbreak is everlasting. Which comes as no surprise as to why it takes them so long to settle down. We also know that most men do not want to be pressured into anything they are not ready for, i.e., committment.
Black women outnumber men by TWO MILLION. Eek!
So if we have these statistics and facts, does screaming along to Single Ladies help our case? FYI: Beyonce is married. She sings single ladies and goes back home and sleeps with her husband. Don’t let her keep you single, honey.
Oh, I’m not saying that there’s anything wrong with being single. Enjoy it! I am. But if you are that woman that has it all, yet has nothing, complains about the lack of selection of quality men, yet dates out of desparation, stop yourself now.
Like Hill Harper said in the Dateline special, “date a man for his potential”. Date him for what he can be. See his ambition and drive and all that he is doing to reach his goals. If not, yes, you will be every woman. Every woman that is unhappy and unmarried.